So, before you go was there something I could've said to make your heart beat better?
Last week, I was pretty certain my mom was going to die. This shouldn't be a surprising revelation, especially not 16 years in to this dogshit disease, but there I was, numb and stupefied by the thought. Alzheimer's is especially cruel like that--once you accept the latest loss of your loved one at the hands of this disease, once you get comfy with navigating whatever the new "normal" looks like, another thread in the human fabric begins to unravel and there you are, bracing yourself for the final goodbye.
Sara Wuillermin is a writer, editor, and podcaster based in southern New Jersey. She first became fascinated with grief rituals after observing roadside memorials along the county roads in South Jersey. Her personal journey with it began in 2005, the year her mom was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s. Since then, she’s explored the topic through writing about her own experiences and interviewing others about theirs.
After immersing herself in the world of grief work, Wuillermin has become dedicated to the cause that everyone deserves the chance to experience a good death. In 2019, she attended INELDA’s End of Life Doula training so she could learn more on how she could help facilitate this process.
She first fell in love with New Jersey in 1983, subsequently her year of entry onto this planet. While she’s still figuring out where her grief journey will take her, she’s certain that she’ll always have one final dying wish: “Bury Me in New Jersey.”